Look no further for 21 long distance relationship conversation topics. It’s okay to run out of ideas when you and your partner are trying to find news of connecting but are always talking.
This list includes both important questions and silly questions to make for meaningful conversations that deepen your connection to each other.
This post is all about long distance relationship conversation topics.
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
CONVERSATION TOPICS:
1. What is the last thing you want to do before you die?
You may feel like this question starts off dark. But, honestly, deep questions like this make it easier to have meaningful conversations that help you get to know your partner on a deeper level and feel closer to them.
Plus, there’s a good chance you’ve never discussed this question before with your long-distance partner. So, it makes for good conversation and you learn something about your partner you would never have otherwise even thought to ask.
2. What’s one piece of advice you’d give to your younger self?
Be honest and be raw with the advice you give to your younger self. We all remember the things that preoccupied us when we were younger and we remember the pain we experienced that we may have been too young to realize would end.
Sometimes, it’s healing just to look back and remind yourself how far you’ve come. Give this gift to your partner by asking interesting questions like this one.
3. What’s your favorite flower?
Simple, meaningful, and useful. This is one of the best questions to ask your long-distance partner because it shows you care enough to want to know what makes them happy.
Plus, you can learn information that will benefit you in the future for holidays, birthdays, and days when you want to remind your partner that you love them.
This question is all the more useful since you’re in a long-distance relationship and always need to find new ways of reminding your partner that they’re on your mind and in your heart.
4. What is the best movie ever made and why?
Prepare to learn all of the best ways that your partner is nerdy. Not everyone is a movie lover. But, if your partner is one of the people who loves movies, they will love telling you every reason why their favorite movie is the best one. Or maybe they’ll love telling you about every movie they love because they have to choose their top ten. That’s what makes long-distance relationship questions like this so perfect for those phone calls when you’ve run out of things to say and those date nights when you want to connect with them the same way you would if you were in the same room with them.
5. What are three things that are on your bucket list?
We, here at Knockoff Therapy, are firm believers that your partner should be the person who pushes you to do the things on your bucket list.
Often, when we’re in charge of our own fun and play, we hold off on the things that will bring us the most joy because we think we haven’t earned them or we’ll do them tomorrow.
Our partner is there to advocate for our joy. Allow yourself to do that for your partner by asking this question and learning what they love to do.
6. Talk to me about your future plans.
Let your partner shower you with all of the ideas they have for their future. Enhance your emotional connection by showing them you take an interest in their personal life, both with you in it and without you in it.
This means that you value their personal growth as a person the same way you value your personal growth as a couple. It also allows them to dream a little and we could all use a reminder from the people who love us the most that we need to dream a little.
7. Which amusement park is your absolute favorite?
Amusement parks are fun. They can bring out our inner child. Talking about them can make us into those children and can give us great ideas for the next date.
So, not only is this a great conversation starter, but asking about amusement parks is a great way to dream up the next date you two will do in person. Plus, depending on how expensive it is, it may feel like a splurge and something to look forward to.
8. What are three TV shows you need me to watch?
Everyone has those TV shows that define their lives. Okay, maybe a TV show defining your life may be a bit extreme and overdramatic. But, we do have TV shows that make us feel seen.
So, when we can share those TV shows with others, they can understand the pieces of our identities better and what makes us us.
That’s why this is one of the most beneficial long-distance relationship conversation topics. It’s the gift that keeps on giving because you’ll talk about it off and on for a while, you’ll be entertained, and you’ll understand your partner better.
9. What’s the most important thing for you to have a strong connection with someone?
Clearly, it’s important to understand what makes your partner connect strongly with another person. Since you’re already dealing with physical distance, it’s a good idea to know how your partner connects best with people.
Remember that people can have very different ways of connecting with each other, so it’s not uncommon for long-distance couples to experience two very different things from the same video call or phone call. Be open to exploring new ways of hanging out with your partner.
10. What would you put in a time capsule?
It’s always fun to think about what you would put in a time capsule. Thought-provoking questions like this can spice up your video chats and remind you that daily life should be fun.
Even though it can be hard to remember it sometimes, you and your partner deserve to focus on something other than the fact that you’re not in the same room.
Get creative and encourage your partner to play a little with their answer. It can be as meaningful or silly as the two of you want. Just remember that it’s a way to connect.
11. What is your ultimate dream job?
Everyone has that job they want to do if they didn’t have to worry about money. For some people, that job is watching Netflix. For others, it’s producing art. Whatever it might be, learn about the little things that make your partner tick.
Depending on both your financial situation and theirs, this question can quickly lose its fun. The good news is that you can get to know them and feel closer to them with serious conversations just as easily as with fun, more light-hearted conversations.
12. Do you have any sexual fantasies?
Yes, it may be a little spicy to ask about your partner’s sexual fantasies. But, you both deserve to embrace your desires and sexuality, especially as they relate to each other. So, bring it up and indulge in the conversation a little.
Long distance couples may not be able to engage in physical intimacy all the time. And, yet, you can still find ways to engage in other forms of intimacy until you see each other next time.
13. What do you like to do on special occasions?
Special occasions can go either way for most people. Some people have great memories with family members, growing up. Other people find special occasions stressful. Identify which group your partner fits into and consider making this question into a makeshift plan for the future.
This is an even better idea if you and your partner live in different countries and have to navigate how your country’s culture differs from theirs.
14. What’s your favorite way of spending time with me?
The fun part of asking a question like this is that you’re already assuming they like to spend time with you and that’s valuable.
In a time when it’s important to avoid making assumptions about people, it can make someone feel seen when you make a kind, thoughtful assumption about someone you love.
By asking about your partner’s favorite way of spending quality time with you, you learn how to love them better. You know how you like to spend time with them, so open up the conversation to learn how they best like to spend with you.
15. What tools do you use to handle our physical separation?
As beautiful as fun questions can be, you need to balance that out with normalizing that you both are struggling with the distance. Maybe you’re handling it on your end. But, your long distance boyfriend or girlfriend may want you to open up about how it’s affecting you.
All they may want from you is to talk about it. Instead of pretending that neither of you notices the distance or struggles with not seeing each other every day, you can ask about it.
16. What are your top three personal goals?
Some people have an automatic answer to this question because they are always planning how to reach their goals.
Other people struggle to figure out what they’re eating for lunch and goals stress them out. So, maybe it’s time to figure out how your partner responds to this question. Remember to be open-minded and consider your own reaction to this question.
17. What makes you have a good laugh?
There’s no better feeling than telling a story that never fails to make you laugh. Sometimes, the way you tell the story is funnier than the story itself. In this case, you get to watch your partner laugh hysterically about something you’ve never experienced.
So, you essentially get to experience pure joy for as long as it takes for them to tell their story. They may also tell you about a show or comedy bit, which means you add something to your watchlist.
18. What’s your favorite song?
Your partner doesn’t have to choose just one. But, maybe they can choose the first song that comes to mind when asked what their favorite song is. There are so many great songs for people to love.
So, this will be a hard question for them to answer and they may dislike you a tiny bit for reducing their endless love for music to one favorite song.
However, if you choose to make a playlist of your favorite songs, think about how fun it would be to listen to the playlist when you’re together and apart.
19. Walk through your day-to-day life.
Since you can’t be there for it, have them let you know what their day is like. Imagine following them around and being in the same room with them as they go to work, complete school work, or watch TV.
It’s funny how small moments like this can make you two feel the most connected. So, when you miss out on them, it can mean a lot to go over them together to feel involved in each other’s lives beyond the phone calls.
20. What has been your biggest challenge so far?
While this question might sound like it’s from a job interview, there’s a good reason for it to be asked in all situations. Oftentimes, we are shaped by the stuff we deal with and it’s important to bring that up with the people we love the most.
We can learn so much about why our partners act the way they do when we learn about the things they’ve faced. Whether it’s childhood trauma, mental health struggles, or something entirely different, take this opportunity to learn what your partner has struggled with.
21. Tell me about one of your favorite childhood memories.
Nostalgia is so beautiful and so enjoyable. While we don’t want to focus on the past when we’re living our life in the present, it’s still fun to think back on the memories we’ve made. Give your partner the gift of talking about one of their favorite childhood memories.
Not everyone has great memories or the same level of joy in their childhood, but there’s typically always at least one memory that sticks with us as we get older. Dive into that one.
