When you have to constantly come up with new things to do in a long distance relationship, it can be difficult. You want your partner to know how much you value them and want to spend time with them.
But, it’s also hard to find creative ways of hanging out that don’t involve just talking on the phone. This list of 30 things to do will give you the creative boost you need to maintain your strong connection with your partner and learn more about them than you thought possible.
This post is all about things to do in a long distance relationship.
THINGS TO DO:
1. Take bubble baths at the same time
Set up bubble baths wherever each of you lives and call each other. Maybe you watch a movie at the same time while you soak in the hot water or you just talk and relax. No matter how you go about it, this shared experience will be a great way to make you two feel connected and change up your routine. Be sure to prepare for this by getting liquid bubbles or a bath bomb, a bath caddy, and a waterproof bed that will suction to your bathtub. Plus, if you only have a shower, there are options for you two. Consider buying an inflatable bathtub, so you can enjoy this experience together. For bonus points, put together a care package for your partner and send it to them to enjoy the bubble bath with your hand-picked products.
2. Play a traditional board game online
Nowadays, there are plenty of board games that have been transferred to an online version playable anywhere. Think of your favorite board game from when you were younger and look it up.
Chances are that you and your partner can play this board game from wherever you both are. Even better, ask them what their favorite board game is and make a date out of it.
There’s no better feeling than playing board games with someone because it makes you feel close to them while engaging in a little competition.
You may see a side to your partner that you didn’t know existed before this. So, start finding the online game of your dreams that will give you a dose of childhood nostalgia. Just think of the traditions you can start with your partner to recreate that nostalgia as often as you want.
3. Get each other a special gift card
Gift cards, in this case, are less about the monetary value they have. You can make it a rule that each of you gives the other person a gift card for the same amount of money. Maybe you get each other two gift cards for random restaurants or fun activities.
The goal is to find a new way of connecting that isn’t just video chat or phone calls. This way, you can eat at the restaurant your long-distance partner chose for you and they can eat at the one you chose.
Then, you can tell each other about your days while doing something thoughtful for the other person.
It’s these types of small things that make the long distance relationship feel less distant. This is also an example of something that would be a lot harder to do if you lived together or in the same town. So, take advantage while you can and pamper each other.
4. Create a playlist of songs as an ode to mixtapes
Make a modern mixtape for your partner. Use Spotify, YouTube, or whichever musical platform you prefer to create a playlist for your partner. Go about this in any way that excites you. Maybe you want it to have a theme that sends a message to your partner or makes them feel good.
Or maybe you want to show them all of the music you love the most by sending them a playlist of amazing songs.
You can also think about the order of the songs on the playlist and get creative. Avoid stressing out over every little detail because that’s not the point of this activity. Instead, you want to put your loving, creative energy into something you enjoy so they can enjoy it too.
5. Put together a photo album and send it to them
Photo albums might seem outdated in the age of the cloud and shared albums on your phone. But, that’s the key to photo albums. Since they’re a little outdated, they have a charm to them that other tangible objects do.
There’s something thoughtful and moving about holding a photo album in your hand and feeling the images glued onto the pages or slipped into the cling film. The good news is that it will be just as enjoyable on your end when you’re creating it.
You get to relive your memories with your partner, write down a fun description of each photo, and then wrap it up to send to your partner to give them the same experience.
Have fun with this and order some of your favorite photos to be printed then get some fun stickers and markers from your local arts and crafts store.
6. Cook your favorite recipes together
You can take this in any direction that suits you and your partner. Maybe you’re interested in cooking some new dishes and you’d enjoy trying them out on video chat with your partner.
Or maybe the two of you want to make a recipe that one of you grew up eating to experience this joy together. However you go about it, start by choosing a recipe and going to the grocery store to make sure you both are stocked.
It’s a good idea to plan this out ahead of time, so you both are available all evening. Get on video and have fun making food from scratch and eating together.
7. Plan a game night of wild fun
Choose your favorite online board games, online games in general, or verbal games. Make a list of them and start going down the list.
Make sure you both are stocked with the snacks you love, free time and maybe some background noise to level up the night. You can involve some fun beverages or keep it simple.
Some friendly competition never hurt anyone and it will give you and your partner a chance to change up your interactions with each other. You’ll laugh until you cry before you know it and learn which one of you is more competitive.
8. Listen to your favorite songs via video call
For a simple way to elevate your typical calls, listen to your favorite songs together. Hop on video chat to see each other’s reactions to your favorite songs.
You may already know each other’s favorites, especially the mainstream ones, so challenge yourself to find songs your partner doesn’t know about.
You may find new songs that you love to surprise your partner and experience something new with them live. There’s no better feeling than watching your partner fall in love with something you also love live, whether it’s on video chat or in person.
9. Plan a movie night with popcorn and cozy blankets
The most important part of movie night is choosing the right movies. There’s no pressure here. You can go for oldies that you are guaranteed to love all over again. Or you can opt for some new movies that have been on your watch list for a while.
This is a great time to hang out with your partner, experience some beautiful emotions together, and get cozy. It will change your routine, especially if you plan ahead.
Make sure you get the snacks you love the most, including movie theatre popcorn, and cuddle up with a cozy blanket. You can watch together using the software many streaming services have nowadays or you can press play at the same time and video chat.
10. Start a new hobby together
Try something new together. When you start a new hobby, whether you crochet, dance, or write poetry, the benefit is that you and your partner share this. You two get to learn something new, make mistakes, and bond over it.
Other people won’t understand like the two of you will. While it may be scary to join a new class without your partner there, remember that you can debrief with them later.
You can also choose to avoid classes altogether and try something where you two can video chat and learn on the spot. Do your best to find something you two will equally appreciate.
11. Plan a scavenger hunt for each other
You likely already know a lot about your partner’s location. It’d be hard not to with how much the two of you talk. However, if you don’t or you’re interested in learning more, then do some research to create a fun scavenger hunt for them.
The goal of this activity is to get involved in your partner’s world and get them involved in yours. They may teach you about details of your home that you didn’t know about and vice versa.
Think of this as a fun activity that you two will do separately and come back together at the end to debrief. You can stay connected during the scavenger hunt, but your attention will need to be on the scavenger hunt to finish faster than them.
12. Give them the ultimate gift of a surprise visit
While it’s time-consuming, hard to keep it a surprise, and expensive, visiting your partner is one of the best gifts you can give each other. Coordinate with their family as best as you can, so they don’t end up double-booked.
Enjoy this activity if you get the chance to surprise your partner and remember that, in the end, the details don’t matter as long as you two spend quality time together.
There isn’t much to say about this one that you haven’t already thought about. Just remember that surprises can be dangerous, so plan it out as best as you can. If your partner finds out, then it simply becomes a visit you both look forward to.
13. Put together the details for a virtual date night
There’s nothing better than your partner telling you they planned out a date night. The best part of any date night is your partner telling you your only job is to show up. Give them the gift of a date night like that.
There’s no shortage of virtual date ideas out there, so you can certainly find one that fits the two of you.
If nothing else, order food delivery for them and tell them to get on video chat with you. This works best when you know they already have a free night and maybe they could use a pick-me-up. It’s a thoughtful gesture that will remind them how much you care.
14. Start a book club with them
Choose the book of the month. Read it on your own time and come together to discuss it. Talk about anything in the book that interested you.
You can go into the book as much as you want or you can bond over the fact that you read a book. As you start your book club, remember that you can choose more than one book a month. You can also listen to audiobooks and choose books of any genre.
15. Watch a TV show a couple of nights a week
Tune into a TV show together by cueing it up on your streaming services. The beauty of this activity is that it’s low-energy and you get to spend time with your partner. You two can bond over the jokes and plot holes in the show without being in the same room.
The only downside to watching a show with your partner is that you have to wait to watch the show with them now. Depending on what you’re watching, that can be torture. So, you better plan nights to watch the show with your partner.
16. Write each other love letters and send them via snail mail
It’s one thing to get a loving text message. It’s a completely different thing to get a legitimate letter in the mail. Surprise them if you can, unless they’re the type to never check their mail. When you’re writing your letter, get sappy and vulnerable.
This is the one time that no one will fault you for telling them every cute thought you’ve ever had. If you’re taking the time to write a love letter to your partner and they’re taking the time to read it, make it worth that time.
Don’t hold back and don’t give a second thought to any shame or embarrassment that comes up for you. They will love it and feel special, which is all that matters.
17. Create a bucket list for when you’re not long-distance anymore
While you want to focus on a positive mindset, there’s nothing wrong with looking forward to the day when you’re not doing long-distance relationship activities anymore.
You can appreciate the current stage of your relationship and look forward to being in the same time zone as your partner.
With that said, make a date out of it and make a list of all of the activities you and your partner want to do when you’re physically together. Think of these activities as motivation to continue doing the long-distance relationship work while also giving you something fun to do together.
18. Send your partner random care packages
You and your partner are always thinking of each other in the back of your minds. You know that and they know that. But, if you want a fun way for them to realize how much you mean to them, make them a care package.
These can be as simple or complex as you want. You can stuff with them a bunch of their favorite snacks or you can set them up with everything they need for a spa day.
Send them a care package when you miss them or you want them to know they’re on your mind. Aside from the cost of postage, these packages can be affordable and easy to do once a month.
19. Take the quiz to learn your love language
You have to know how your partner feels love. It’s strange to think that they don’t experience love the same way you do, and it’s even harder to identify what makes them feel love. So, take this quiz together and see what your reactions are.
Talk to each other about your love languages and whether they feel accurate. Turn this into a conversation about needs and how each of you makes the other person feel seen and valued.
20. Go on a video call to see each other’s faces
Sometimes, the best activities are the simplest activities. When you’re long-distance, at some point, you want to experience the same simple pleasures that other couples get to experience.
It can be frustrating when your long-distance love is just as valid as the love between other people. Yet, you’re working ten times harder because you’re in two different time zones. When all else fails, call them to see their face and hear their voice.
21. Send your partner sweet things in loving text messages
Send your partner the text they’d never expect. If you’re nervous about writing a text like that, there are plenty of resources out there for you. Your partner will feel so in love with you because of how thoughtful your message is.
It will make them miss you more, so be prepared to get on a sappy call with them. Little things like this keep the love alive and remind each of you what keeps long distance couples going for so long.
22. Remember to talk about the real life stuff too
It makes sense that you want to avoid the heavy stuff during the only phone call you have during the day. You don’t want to make them feel bad about the stuff outside of their control, especially since they can’t console you in person.
But, the real stuff is what makes your relationship so meaningful and special. If you start leaving the real stuff out, you will start leaving them out of your life and disconnecting from them.
Bring up the stuff that might make them sad because they want to hear about every part of your life, not just the happy, easy stuff.
23. Call your partner while you’re at the grocery store
Never underestimate the romantic potential of doing errands together. You can argue about the best type of cheese, let them know what you’re eating this week, and spend time with them you’d otherwise spend missing them.
It doesn’t replace the real thing of having them in the store with you, but it does help you two connect in a new, fun way. You can even get them involved by asking for their opinions about food and how to tell when a watermelon is ripe.
24. Ask each other fun questions to start new conversations
Get the conversation started by asking them fun, new questions. It’s hard to think of a question you’ve never asked your partner because you talk all the time. So, feel free to refer to other resources for ideas.
Use this as an opportunity to ask them questions you’d otherwise be too afraid to ask. Keep in mind that this does not mean you can ask them awkward, uncomfortable questions without creating a safe environment.
Make sure that they feel comfortable being honest with you and that you feel comfortable being honest with them.
25. Start a conversation about your favorite ways of spending time together
Take the concept of love languages and translate it to spending time together. Quality time is one of the love languages and not everyone values it as much as others do. However, spending time together is essential to a healthy relationship.
It gives you and your partner the space to continue getting to know each other and enjoy each other’s presence. It’s one of the only times you two get to be just a couple and it will help you withstand the test of time.
So, prioritize time when it is the two of you alone, as a couple, and nothing more. You two are people before you’re a son, daughter, friend, or sister, so remember that and nurture that for each other.
26. Prioritize your alone time because that’s important
The last thing most long-distance couples want to do is acknowledge that they need alone time. The couple needs alone time as a couple. But, so do each of the people in the relationship.
When you feel like your time is already less meaningful and powerful because you’re on the phone, it makes sense that you want to stay with your partner all the time. However, the best way to nurture your relationship and keep it strong is to keep yourself strong.
Before you can take care of your relationship with your partner, you need to know how to take care of yourself. It’s fine to ask for help from your partner, but they should not be the only source of relaxation and care in your life. You have to do that for yourself, too.
27. Hang out with your best friends for moral support
Long-distance relationships are hard. They take a lot of work and dedication, just like every other relationship. But, they take a special level of dedication because you have to work harder to connect with your partner every day.
It’s okay to be sad and angry because you can’t spend time with your partner in person. You’re dealing with a lot in your relationship, no matter how worth it it is to wait for your partner. This is when you rely on best friends to help you out.
Some days, you may need some extra support and love sitting across from you instead of on the phone. Take the time to notice how you’re feeling because it’s healthy to feel your feelings no matter how painful they are.
28. Formulate a list of things to do while you’re long-distance
Involve your partner in this process of figuring out what you can do when you’re in a long-distance relationship. It’s easy to get stuck on all of the limitations you experience.
But, you’ll be surprised at how happy and excited you’ll get when you start to talk about this with your partner. You two will slowly realize how much you’re capable of even when you’re apart.
If nothing else, this exercise will make you two more optimistic and you may find reasons to appreciate being long-distance. Get creative when coming up with your long-distance relationship ideas and aim big because those ideas are always more fun than the easy ones.
29. Get vulnerable with them about your emotions to maintain your emotional connection
You need to have fun with your partner and laugh with them. But, you also need to have serious conversations about your emotions. Whether or not you feel comfortable now, you should want to open up to your partner.
If you haven’t had a lot of these types of conversations, it will be scary and it will teach you a lot about your relationship. Intimacy matters in relationships and physical intimacy is hard to achieve in a long-distance relationship.
That’s why your emotional connection is more important than ever. You need to have the conversations that make you uncomfortable because those are the types of conversations that remind you why you’re going through with this partner.
30. Check in with them about the important things
It takes effort to open up to people. It’s harder when you’ve never seen people talk openly about their emotions in the past.
Whether you’re thinking of your parents or other relationships you’ve seen all your life, you have to be exposed to that type of communication to realize how important it is to the health of a relationship.
Your partner may not be used to talking about themselves or getting real about their life with you. So, ask them. Check in with them about how they’re doing. They may struggle at first, but, the more you do it, the more they will get used to it and start responding to it.